This is one I didn’t write, but it just about sums up my thoughts and the thoughts of any woman similar to me.
Subject: SELF WORTH
In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: ‘What kind of man are you looking for?’ She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, ‘Do you really want to know?’
Reluctantly, he said, ‘Yes.
She began to expound, ‘As the kind of woman I am, I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can’t do for myself? I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man… or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, ‘What can you bring to the table?’ The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.
She quickly corrected his thought & stated, ‘I am not referring to money.
I need something more. I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life. He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain.
She said, ‘I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally
because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don’t need a simple-minded man.
I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually
because I don’t need to be unequally yoked…believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster.
I need a man who is striving for excellence financially
because I don’t need a financial burden.
I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.
I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man.
I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God. I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive…he just has to be worthy.
And by the way, I am not looking for him…He will find me.
He will recognize himself in me. He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can’t help a man if he can’t help himself.”
When she finished her speel, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, ‘You are asking a lot.”
She replied, “I’m worth a lot”.
MY 1st NOTE: I don’t think she was asking a lot. It may have been a lot to him, if he wasn’t the type of man she described, but not a lot to every man’s perspective.
She was not asking for a perfect man, or even a man finished with his development. “In process” is expected, but the two should at similar levels in their development process. One being behind the other could lead to frustration.
She was asking only for what she is offering to be given in return. I don’t see that as “a lot”; I see it as reasonable.
MY 2nd NOTE: Anything that has many benefits is worth “a lot.” So if you want the partnership that comes with the pleasure, comforts, and long term benefits, you have to be willing to give what it takes. Otherwise, go put you application in at Mickey D’s or WalMart.
Some people want the luxury lifestyle, but only willing to give “burger flipping” effort. And others give luxury level effort, but accept “burger flipping” benefits.
KNOW YOUR WORTH.