Diary of a Pretty Girl (Episode 2) Why do some people bully?

THIS IS A POST FOR ANYONE WHO IS BEING MESSED WITH, not just the pretty girls.  Read the whole post to find out what I mean.

Yes, pretty girls have every reason to feel confident, but a lot of the times other people attack the good looking people around them to make themselves feel better.

Why?

Simple. The person that they think is “pretty” or “attractive” effects them emotionally. They feel weak to this other person, and in retaliation they will attack the quality that makes them feel badly. So they lash out in an effort to make that other person feel badly.  If they succeed in doing so, they feel a sense of power or control over this person.

Basically, it’s a coping mechanism. It eases their troubled psyche if they attack the person who they feel is better than them in some way. Maybe you make A’s in math, and they are failing, Maybe your brother is protective of you and their brothers are mean to them.

As adults, this still happens. Maybe you are more at ease in your own skin than they are, maybe your hair is longer and healthier, or maybe your clients are happier with you than theirs are.

In other words, if you feel that you are being bullied or attacked, chances are IT’S ONLY BECAUSE SOMETHING ABOUT YOU MAKES THE BULLY FEEL WEAK, AND IN THEIR EFFORT TO REGAIN CONTROL AND TO DENY THEIR TRUE FEELINGS, THEY ATTACK YOU.

That is the nature of most bullying and intimdation. So don’t take it personal, they’re not attacking you. You are more worthy than you might feel like sometimes. This person is only attacking the greatness in you because they can’t handle it.

 

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